The War Room Palaver...

Been seeing a lot of tweets and talk on the Internet about War Room.

To be honest, I’m confused. Are you all sure it is the same movie I saw that you saw?

On one hand are the women getting very upset that War Room provides an excuse for cheating and irresponsible men while on the other hand are those happy that they’ve found a tool to keep an irresponsible man in check. Nah B, that isn’t what I saw.

The War Room I sat down to see was a about a woman who outsourced her happiness and the joy of her life to her husband so much so that she paid little or no attention to the cute angel she carried for Nine months. She needed/wanted her husband to ‘see’ her so badly. She craved his constant attention and needed so much to plan everything with him and wanted his approval so badly.

Of course, it was not forthcoming so it always got her riled up, absorbed in it and led to so many fights till she met this older lady (a praying woman) who became a mentor. This older lady told her she wished she knew what she knew now; the years she spent fighting and troubling her soul, would have been spent in so much peace and self-fulfilment so she has taken it upon herself to mentor younger ones to prevent same errors.

(Lesson 1: Not everyone needs to know your business, just the ones who genuinely will solve your problems)

The older lady took her on a self-finding journey. A journey to learn to pay more attention to herself, her child and build on her life cos the home battles were affecting her career. She was so focused on her husband that she talked about him at work and stuff. Selling houses became an issue.

This woman taught her how to pray for herself, for her family (generally), then what to pray regarding her husband. She didn’t tell her to pray her husband doesn’t cheat or to pray her husband starts loving her. There was a prayer and it struck me. It went thus; “Whenever my husband is thinking of doing something unlawful, expose him”. If you are reading this, this is the best and worst prayer anyone can pray for anyone who’s cutting corners.

(Lesson 2: Do not outsource your happiness. Focus on you)

So this lady placed her focus on herself and her daughter. She became happier, started glowing and the husband got suspicious but she was not fazed. Notice that her daughter became happier too? The house wasn’t filled with shouting or angry people. Notice when she saw the text proofs her friend sent her about Uncle’s sleazy ways and ignored it and Uncle was busy lying his way out till he figured she had caught him red-handed and man got scared she was going to poison him but she just ignored his foolishness? Boo, that was not her giving him a pass. That was her showing ‘I can exist without you but if you want to destroy yourself, I’m not helping you have an excuse’. She was genuinely happy with herself and he wasn’t a problem to her anymore. #Winning!

(Lesson 3: Foolish people do foolish things)

Uncle was busy skimming off work, lying to his work people and not bringing in gains and playing with company business. (I feel one of his slighted chicks gave him up). His office not only sacked him but also was going to prosecute him for fraud. Our guy became humble. You know everyone becomes religious when they’ve fucked up their lives. His ‘humbility’ was overflowing. Remember that prayer? Y’all really thought it was for cheating? Nah B! That prayer screwed his fake life up and helped him become a better human being to the community not just his family.

Let me also say this, War Room is directed as women as much as guys. It is as much a ‘be careful to guys’ as it is ‘don’t mortgage your joy’ to women.

Nobody is saying watch ‘War Room’ when someone is pummelling you. Don’t be foolish abeg, run without looking back. I don’t know what it feels like hitting someone (even ordinary slap, I never give before) but I can tell you being hit isn’t pleasurable. Just do what is best for you.